Where there’s a Will There’s a Way
From Pain to Power - turning the wounds of trauma into your superpower! Your mind to the service of your soul. MARISA RUIZ (Holistic Coach & Energy Healer) 1. How it all Began…. When I was 7 years
From Pain to Power - turning the wounds of trauma into your superpower! Your mind to the service of your soul.
MARISA RUIZ
(Holistic Coach & Energy Healer)
1. How it all Began….
When I was 7 years old, I was already done & wanted to jump off a 9-story building because my body could not tolerate any more sexual abuse or silence. The first half of my life was filled with depression, panic attacks, anxiety & it made me suicidal. I have experienced mental, sexual and physical abuse, toxic relationships, causing a burnout that brought me to the ER and today as I tell u all this it’s like I’m reliving my childhood traumas after 30 years of blocking them.
2. What made me not give up?
Over and over again, I chose me, even if I panicked, even if it meant walking away from someone I felt dependent on, even if it meant being/doing the opposite of what my environment was telling me to be/do.
I chose me, recovering pieces of myself with each step, discovering who I really was with each imperfectly perfect step. No, it hasn’t been a bed of roses and I wouldn’t wish my life on someone else, but I do want to share the lessons I learned which is authenticity, sovereignty, presence, peace and love are the pillars that move my life.
Wherever you are, choose you, not in a self-centered mode, but in responsibility to you mode. The only person responsible for your happiness is you.
3. What inspired you to become a coach/author It takes a strong woman to promote other women & you do that through your initiatives. What motivated you to take that path?
My epiphany was motherhood. With all my life’s experiences and trauma, my programming was one of over adaptation.
4. What is over adaptation?
It’s a defense mechanism against the fear of rejection: it involves overexertion in order to please others, to fulfil other people’s dreams, to meet the “ideal of perfection expected of me.”
After decades of living in that place, my body burst during motherhood. Trying to be a perfect mother, as if I didn’t have a stressful job, and trying to be a perfect worker, as if I didn’t have 2 babies. While trying to hide from both parties that we were in the hands of social services due to poverty.
This story is not mine alone, it is shared by millions of people around the world. Each one is different and non-transferable, but with a common base. To keep the mask on while putting up a good front and keeping up with the status quo.
After coming out of the ER with a shattered nervous system and having to spend 2 months lying down, one day I was on the kitchen floor while my children, 10 months and 2.5 years old, huddled next to me saying “mama pupa” (mommy boo boo.) At that moment, I asked myself 2 questions that were my epiphany:
“Is this the example of life I want to set for my children?”
A clear “NO!” Was the response inside me and I asked myself the next question, the one I was most afraid of
“Is it possible to change and make it different, better for my life and theirs?”
It wasn’t a shout, it was a whisper, but the most convincing whisper I have ever heard, “yes.”
Now, that whisper has become a roar. And yes, it was time to change their lives & mine .
Life begins when you say YES, even if that’s all you have at that point.
Dear reader, Is there a whisper you’re ignoring that wants to be heard?
5. What Now ? What Next?
We are a traumatised society. This statement is not mine, but that of many experts. With the pandemic, it is said that it has worsened, but the truth is that mental health experts have been claiming this for years and even decades.
If we want a healthy society, the people who make up that society need to be healthy. My personal experience has made me live close to trauma and its consequences. Like me, you can have mental health issues and still be a “productive” person ….until you stop being one (in my case it was a blessing.). I don’t want this. Not for me, not for our society. I have worked on changing me, to heal my wounds and their consequences. I continue to work on it every day.
For the last 6 years, I have been guiding and accompanying other people to do the same.
The results for them and their environment have been heartening. That is my vision, a society free of trauma, where it is understood that stress, anxiety and depression are arrows that point you in the direction of wounds waiting to be seen, recognized and healed. “If you want to change the world, go home and love your family” Mother Teresa said, where I would add: “starting with yourself.”
6. How do you define Happiness?
Happiness, to me, is a choice. It’s my responsibility towards myself and others. Honoring the words of Thich Nhat Hanh, who recently passed away, I agree that “There is no way to happiness – happiness is the way.”
7. Your message to all the women out there who are lost and/or looking for direction
Wherever you are, choose you, not in self-centred mode, but in responsibility to you mode. The only person responsible for your happiness is you. Wherever you are, even in the darkest of storms, remember that the sun is always there. With help, it’s easier and faster. My hand (and that of many other great professionals) is outstretched. I’m a phone call away.
“If you want different results, you need to do things differently” with “high intention and low expectations”
-Winston Churchill.
I help you train your mind and nervous system to serve your soul (instead of your ego)
by bringing together science, energy work, somatic practices and spirituality.
Email: marisa@marisaruizcoach.com
Message and/or Whatsapp: +34 675 20 87 98
Website www.marisaruizcoach.com
